Written by: Midwest Matchmaking
Life is hectic when you’re working your way to the top. Trying to find time to date while getting your career in order can be a whole other ballgame you just don’t have the time to waste on just anyone. “Dating smart” is an essential tool any successful professional needs to utilize to ensure you’re meeting the right match for your busy lifestyle, and someone who understands that drive to get to the top.
Being a busy professional likely means outsourcing areas of your life to other professionals – whether that includes hiring landscapers for your lawn, maids for your home, nannies for your children, or…. a matchmaker for your love life. But there are other ways to ensure that you’re getting maximum value from your minimal free time.
An online article, https://notablelife.com/6-ways-to-date-smart-as-a-busy-young-professional/, outlines the ways busy career-climbers can “date smart” while still maintaining a healthy work/love/life balance without having to give up one for the other. Yes, even with working 60+ weeks, you can still find your Happily Ever After. Here’s how:
1. Hire a Local Matchmaking Service
Dating apps and online dating require even more of a workload than you already have. This is essentially a part-time job: weeding through profiles, chatting aimlessly with people that likely end up going nowhere, and wasting time meeting the wrong people who were sent to you via a computerized algorithm. Hiring a professional matchmaking company will ensure that you receive the quality you’re looking for; not simply random dates with little potential for a romantic future.
2. Use the Date-Night-In to Your Advantage
If you work long hours, it’s fair to say you might be too tired to take your date out sometimes. Of course, this depends on the night and it depends on how you’re feeling. You may be in the mood to simply put your feet up at home rather than go out. A date-night-in is fine as long as you still put some effort in to show that you care enough not to become one of those lazy daters.
3. Use Your Lunch Break to Go on Dates
At least once per week, forgo sushi with Alex from accounting and instead go on a lunch date. This works especially well if you meet someone who works the same core hours as you do, and works close to your office. You have to eat lunch anyway, so you may as well make a date out of it. It’s also a great way to (hopefully) brighten your day before it’s even half over.
4. Choose a Partner Who Has a Similar Lifestyle
You must choose your partners wisely. If you tend to work 12 hour days, you probably don’t want to date the freelance writer who only works 6 hours a day. Chances are, if there’s a huge contrast between the amounts of free time you both have, problems could arise. That’s not to say you can’t still give it a try – but if he or she starts getting demanding of your time, that’s a red flag. Odds are, a relationship will work better with someone who is just as busy as you are. If you both get off work late, you’ll both be fine with going out for a late dinner or relaxing at home with late-night takeout. Similarly, if you both are working on side projects, you can order takeout and work on your respective projects while still spending time together.
5. Steer Clear of the Overly Needy Types
The needy types often sweat the small stuff – which means they might not be cool with you canceling a dinner date due to working late. If things tend to come up last minute for you, you’ll need to date someone who skews more to the easy going side of things than the needy. If their life revolves around you, they’ll tend to get upset easily about a change in plans. However, if they have their own happy and busy life, they don’t need you as much – which is a good thing.
6. Incorporate Your Partner into Your Work Life
Bring your significant other to work events, or ask him or her to come along when you have to go away for a weekend for a conference. Other ways of incorporating your partner into your work life include running ideas past your partner, getting work-related advice from your partner, and sharing career milestones with each other. If you’re busy, they can be busy with you too.