Written by: Midwest Matchmaking
A common question that arises with our busy and selective clientele is, what constitutes a great first date? Clearly, if time is a commodity a professional, single dater finds precious, there is none of it to waste when it comes to making a great first impression.
In our experience as matchmakers, and given the feedback we have received from thousands of clients over the years from both great and not-so-great first dates, a memorable one usually includes three different elements:
Affordability. Spending a lot signals a big commitment and high expectations, which can actually be off-putting to your date. Keeping things more casual not only sets the right vibe for the woman, but benefits you too; if the date doesn’t go as planned, you avoided spending $100 on a dinner tab with someone you will never see again.
Conversation. Do not set dates inside dark movie theaters or play production venues. Or at loud concerts, bars or comedy shows. Bowling is also not a good idea either since it’s very difficult to get a cohesive conversation going. The whole point of the date is to get to know each other better, and you can’t do that if you’re not able to talk, or can talk, but can’t hear each other.
Ample face-to-face time. Men prefer socializing side-by-side, but women prefer to do it face-to-face; plus, ample eye contact plays a huge role in building attraction.
An interesting backdrop. Awkward silences will be a rare occurrence if you are on a date where there are plenty of things going on around you to comment on and discuss. Some examples of these are: Museums, Mini Golf, Trivia Night, Pottery Painting, “Paint and Sip” places, Minor League Sports Games, a Picnic, a Tea House/Room, an Amusement Park
Lastly of course, be yourself. Dating takes a level of vulnerability that is difficult to share with a complete stranger, but just remember that they are putting themselves out there also. So just relax, admit to any nerves you may be experiencing (which will likely allow them to breathe a sigh of relief), and enjoy the potential of this being your last first date.